There is always going to be times in your life when things are hard, it can be a range of different things, it could be your struggling for work, you could be struggling with your mental health, you generally might just be having a tough time, but these things happen in everyones lives at one point or another and I think it's important to tell yourself that it is ok.
Tough times come and go, but I feel like there is some things that you should remind yourself of because it's so easy to get sidetracked by the bad things surrounding you rather than the positive things that surround you.
1.Your not alone - Your not going to be the only person in the world going through a hard time, just surround yourself with positive people and close friends and they will help you through it.
2. You only have to ask - There are a few people in my life that I know 100% I can call on whenever I need them. The close people around you will always be there for you, so, even if it's just to go around to have a cup of tea, they will be always be there for you.
3. It is ok to cry - Now this is one in which I must take into consideration, I don't know why but I always find if I'm upset about something and I cry it makes me seem weak or that I can't handle things. This is not true, sometimes all it takes is for you to have cry and a glass of wine with the girls to make you feel better about a situation or to put you in a bettie frame of mind.
4. Things will soon get better - Most of the time the situation you are in is only for a short period of time, most things in life are easily changed, nothing in life is permanent, if you are unhappy about something or something is getting you down, be it, your mental state, a job or a relationship, change it. Change is something in which everyone should welcome with open arms.
I've wanted to write a post like this for a while, it's something which right over the past few months would have helped me.
Is there anything you tell yourself when things are hard? Leave a comment below :)
H x
For as long as I can remember (forever) i've always been bigger, i've never been one of these girls who can fit into size 10 jeans, and thats something that i've always struggled with.
I've always wanted to be slimmer, skinner but in the last year i've learnt that being plus size isn't so much of a bad thing, i've learnt that it is ok to be different to other people, to not follow the 'norm' as so to speak.
I think the thing that has helped is the rise of plus size bloggers and youtubers, along with stores now making clothes which actually suit the size of a plus size body type rather than just making clothes in a bigger size, it also helps that i've got a great group of friends which couldn't care less what size I am, just that I am super happy in myself and in everything that I do.
Although there are now more plus size models in the media, I still feel like it is not enough, even when you go online to buy clothes, you click on the plus size link and the models wearing the clothes are not plus size, they are a size 14/16 at the most, clothes on them do not look the same as they would on someone who is a real plus size, a size 20,22 or even bigger. Although the 'plus size' models are now in the fashion world, they are not in proportion to the real plus size women all over the world, although yes they are a little bigger than the standard model they still do not represent us.
I've heard talks of getting rid of the 'plus' label and for me, I don't think we should, shopping plus size is a way that I can actually get clothes that will suit my body and my size, although it really annoys me that the people on the websites do not portray plus size in the realistic light, its nice that when I order clothes, or see plus size bloggers write posts about clothing I know I could order and it will fit or actually make me feel good.
Although this post is a bit of a ramble, it is something that lately has really got me thinking, I don't think there is enough plus size women in the limelight, something which I hope over time will change.
What are your thoughts on the plus size label?
Let me know in the comments,
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I have just finished my final year at university and I can't believe its all over, but I have really enjoyed it and thought I would share my experience and a few things that I have learnt that helped me along the way.
I'll start right back at the beginning, the A-Levels I did were, Psychology, Sociology, Law and History as just an AS subject. So while I was thinking about applying to uni I knew that I wanted to do either Psychology, Sociology and Law. Although Law is the subject that I got the highest grade in, there wasn't really much in it and so I chose my university subject based on what I thought I would enjoy the most and based on what sort of work I wanted to go into once I finally finished my degree. In the end I chose a BSc in Psychology with Sociology, with the University of East Anglia and City College Norwich.
The one thing I found while applying for university while I was at college was that I feel people get too hung up on University League Tables, Unless you are going to be a high flyer in a top Law firm or within your field, I don't think it really matters, just go for a university that you like and in a city you like because although 3 years goes fast you've still got to live there while your attending that university.
I chose UEA with City College Norwich because I didn't want to move away for uni, I also wanted to attend uni but come out with as little debt as possible, I know for some people this isn't a big factor, and its not a major factor for me, it's just something I decided and my tuition fees were only £6000 a year compared to the average of around £8500-£9000. Norwich is also a lovely city, and a place that I know and am comfortable in with it being my nearest city.
Now for the actual university experience..
I was lucky with my degree that it was only 2 full days a week for first and second year, and then one day for third year, although I only attended for those days, I still had a huge amount of work to do on other days, because my course was consolidated into 2 days it meant that I could work alongside my degree, for first and second year I worked full time along side it, but for third year I only worked part time because the workload was too much to work full time swell. It is true when people say third year really is a step up from first and second year, the modules are a lot harder, and the dissertation, which is fine once you get going, its just the getting going which is the hard part.
Because my degree was with City College Norwich and UEA my campus was in the city centre, which is a lot closer to home for me and parking wasn't really a problem either because there is a car park just down the road.
All people deal with assignments in different ways, some people like to be well organised and do an assignment over a week or so, others like to do it in a day or even the night before a deadline, i'm more of the latter, and other people on my course always said 'oh I don't know how you do that' but for me it's just the way I work, I always got good result marks and so for me it worked. Don't ever let people stress you out with the way you work, if it works for you then it works.
Your dissertation is a big part of final year, but try not to get too hung up for it, pick a subject you are super interested in, because trust me you will get bored otherwise, before you pick your topic, make sure that there is a lot of contemporary research on it, otherwise you will struggle to actually write it! The further tip of a dissertation is just start writing, you can always get rid of it later, but if you spend days trying to figure out how to start it then it is a waste of time, I did this, and it wasted so much of my time which could have been used finding relevant research. Also, a final tip of a dissertation which I found so useful, is to try and split it into mini essays, that way you only have to deal with a little bit at a time and you won't get stressed out about the word count.
Overall, I love my university experience, I don't regret the university I chose, I ended up with a 2:1 BSc in Psychology with Sociology (Hons)!
Is there any tips you have about university, or anything to share about your experience?
H x
